Every single one of us is born as a sexual being. We’re all born with a sexual design given to us by our Creator. Our sexuality wasn’t an afterthought, but an intentional part of God’s good plan for us. He created us to be fully sexual and fully human from the moment we were conceived.
Sexuality isn’t a taboo topic for God, but one that He cares deeply about. He designed our sexuality and gave us an identity within it. He has a good plan for each of our lives and wants to help us embrace our sexuality according to His design.
However, in the society that we live in today, sexuality has become an extremely confusing and complicated issue. Rather than looking to God’s Word to define us, we have become a people who define themselves. Rather asking God what His plan and purpose for our sexuality is, we have taken matters into our own hands. Rather than embracing our identity as described in Scripture, we have allowed our feelings and inner desires to dictate our identity.
God wants so much more for us.
He wants to redeem our sexuality and help us embrace His good and original design.
In chapter six of our new book, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart, we unpack 4 Biblical truths about our sexual design. In this post, I want to share with you a snippet of what 3 of these truths look like. We won’t have enough time to thoroughly dig into each topic, so I hope you’ll grab a copy of the book and dig into chapter six on your own.
Truth #1: Sexual Identity is a God-Assigned Reality
“Instead of embracing our inner desires as truth, we must turn to God’s timeless and unchanging Word to guide us toward truth. Psalm 119:105 says, ‘Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.’ As countercultural as this reality may be, our truest self can only be found within the Creator’s design for us. He designed us, therefore he is the only One who can define us. As John Piper says, ‘Neither whom we should worship nor who we are sexually is left to our preferences.’ God created you to be a female. He chose your gender for you. Your sexual identity is a beautiful, God-assigned reality.”
Truth #2: Marriage is a Covenant Between a Man and Woman
“Marriage was first set into motion by God when He united Adam and Eve as husband and wife (Gen. 1:28; Gen. 2:24; Mark 10:6–9). Marriage, as lovely as it is, is only a picture of something greater. It’s an earthly representation of something much grander. God placed the institution of marriage on the wall of this world as a representation of the gospel. ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church’ (Eph. 5:31–32).
God’s greatest purpose for creating marriage is to show the world an earthly representation of what Christ’s covenant relationship looks like with His Church. Christ is the groom and the Church is His bride. The male/groom is a reflection of Christ and the female/bride is a reflection of the Church (Eph. 5:22–24).”
Truth #3: Sex was Created for Intimacy within Marriage
“God has woven into the very fabric of our being a deep desire and longing to be intimately satisfied within a covenant relationship. Just as God created marriage to be a metaphor of Christ’s relationship with His Church, sex was created to be an earthly metaphor of Christ’s covenant love with His Church. There is no other act on this earth as intimate, vulnerable, and close as sexual intimacy. This physical act reveals a glimpse of how deeply God loves His people.
Not only is sex a beautiful celebration of the marriage covenant, God also designed it to deepen the bond between a husband wife. Dr. Slattery says, ‘When you look at what happens in our bodies and brains when you’re sexually intimate with someone, you’re actually bonding with that person in ways that you don’t understand—even at a neurological level.’
We were made for covenant. We were made for committed love. That is how God loves us, and that is how He designed us to love another within a covenant marriage. Sex is a spectacular and wonderful gift given to us in marriage as a picture of God’s love.”
Whether it’s gender, marriage, or sex — God created each of one of these things and has a lot to say about them in His Word.
He cares for us and has a good and beautiful plan for our sexuality. He wants to help us find true freedom by embracing His design for our lives. He wants to help us embrace our truest identity and purpose which can only be found in Him.
I hope you’ll grab a copy of Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart and continue learning about God’s beautiful design for your sexuality.
For now, I’d love to hear from you below.
- When it comes to your understanding of sexuality, has your perspective been shaped more by the world or by God’s Word?
- What do you find most challenging to embrace regarding God’s design for sexuality?