I looked in the mirror and knew exactly what I was missing. More eyeliner.
I’m not talking about a nice top line that frames the eye and accentuates the eyes. No. I’m talking about raccoon style eyeliner. I’m talking about loads and loads around the top and bottom of the eye.
I’m talking about so much eyeliner that the onlooker might literally mistake me for a raccoon.
Yep. That was my go-to look in high school.
I craved the attention of guys and extra eyeliner was my means of trying to catch that attention. Why did I want their attention? I (like many young women) figured that my worth basically went up in value if guys noticed me.
Why did I want their attention? I (like many young women) figured that my worth basically went up in value if guys noticed me.
I (like many young women) figured that my worth basically went up in value if guys noticed me.
It took me many years of studying, reading God’s word, and listening to the wisdom of my parents to finally acknowledge that my worth has nothing to do with guys and everything to do with God.
Looking back on those years of chasing guys and striving after the “perfect look,” brings me sadness and joy.
Sadness over the fact that I wasted so much energy striving after empty solutions to lasting worth. And joy that I’ve come a long way and discovered three powerful truths that have transformed my life and perspectives on beauty.
The topic of beauty and worth is one that many (if not almost all) young women and women struggle with.
It seems like obtaining the “perfect look” has been a serious obsession for women throughout all of history and in all cultures.
But as many of us have learned from personal experience, trying to find fulfillment and satisfaction by “looking beautiful” hasn’t given us the results we’ve hoped for.
Throughout the rest of today’s blog, I want to share with you three powerful truths that have totally and completely transformed my life.
These truths have radically changed me and given me the confidence, security, and courage to live every day for the glory of God (despite how I look or feel in the moment).
If you’ve ever had a beauty struggle of your own, my prayer is that these three powerful truths will radically change your life as well.
3 Powerful Truths for Embracing True Beauty and Lasting Worth.
1. God Designed Me, So He Defines My Worth.
God is the ONLY one with the authority to say what makes you valuable.
He is your creator and He is your maker. No one else (guys, culture, Hollywood, friends, social media etc.) has the right to say what gives you worth. Only your Creator has the authority to say what gives you worth and this is what He has to say.
“For you [God] formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth” (Psalm 139:13-15).
This verse might sound confusing to you, but if you can understand what it means, it has the power to give you lasting worth!
2. God handcrafted you to look just the way you do.
Unless you embrace this truth you will be discontent…even if you’re a supermodel. If you can’t truly accept the fact that God handcrafted you to look just the way you do, you will always struggle with discontentment and comparison.
We must go back to Psalm 139:13-15 and recognize that God knitted each one of us together in our mother’s womb. Each one of us has unique features and special attributes that were intentionally given to us by God Himself.
He looks on each one of us through His incredibly creative eyes and says, “you are fearfully and wonderfully made.”
3. God created you to glorify and serve Him with the body He gave you.
“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them” (Ephesians 2:10).
Life isn’t ultimately about us. Our body isn’t about us. Our beauty and femininity aren’t about us. Each one of us is God’s workmanship created for Christ Jesus. We were made to walk in the good works which Christ prepared beforehand.
We must go from Self-Focused to Christ-focused.
Each and every one of us was created to glorify God and serve Him with the body He gave us. When we take our eyes off of ourselves and focus them on living for Christ, it does something radical to our perspective.
It changes it from a self-absorbed and insecure perspective to a Christ-centered and confident perspective. A life filled with confidence because it’s being lived for a greater purpose than simply catching a guy’s attention.
I encourage you to focus on embracing the three powerful truths.
Looking back on my high school years and raccoon eyeliner days, I so wish I would have understood and embraced these three powerful truths. They truly have transformed me into a satisfied, content, and Christ-centered woman.
My life is so much more confident because I understand my worth as a woman.
I want to hear from you now.
Which of the three powerful truths do you need to embrace? How can you apply it?