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Why A Husband Isn’t Your Reward for Staying Pure

I’ve heard several girls express similar complaints over the past few months. They sound something like this…

“I did everything right. I haven’t had sex. I didn’t date around. I tried to honor God. So what gives? Why didn’t God give me a husband?” 

In today’s Vlog, I want to take you through 3 different truths to help you answer that questions.

Here are 3 truths to help you gain a Biblical approach to purity: 

1. God never guarantees you a husband.

Getting married and having a husband is an awesome thing, but it’s not a guarantee. We need to make sure that we don’t add to Scripture or add to what God says. We need to view marriage as a good, awesome, amazing gift, but not a guarantee.

2. We should choose to remain pure because God commands it. 

“Marriage should be honored by all and the marriage bed kept undefiled” (Hebrews 13:4).

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4). 

3. Our motivation for purity should be rooted in a desire to honor God. 

“And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” (Matthew 22:37). 

“I will give thanks to You, O Lord my God, with all my heart, And will glorify Your name forever” (Psalm 86:12). 

May 3, 2017 by Bethany Beal

Filed Under: Videos Tagged With: Boundaries, Marriage, Purity

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