The month of love. The month of romance. The month of roses, chocolates, and romantic candlelit dinners. February is known for loading the stores with specialty gifts, beautiful bouquets, and heart-melting cards. Red, pink, and hearts fill the aisles reminding us that it’s almost Valentine’s Day!!!
What a fun holiday…if you have a guy! For the rest of us, Valentine’s Day is known as none other than, “Singles Awareness Day.” The day we are confronted with the fact that we are still single.
Instead of enjoying the month of February, we, as singles, dread it. We dread the flowers. Dread all the romance in the air. Dread all the mushy pictures being posted by our friends. Dread all the talk of relationships and dread the idea of being single for another Valentine’s Day.
Can I be real with you for a minute?
I want to be married. I want to have someone special on Valentine’s Day. I’ve dreamed of the day when I can finally have someone to call “mine.” Someone to share a candlelit dinner with. Someone who will show up on my front porch holding a bouquet of roses.
The fact is, my dreams of love are still just dreams.
Love is in the air and I’m very much not in the air. I’m about as far down on the ground as a girl can get. No true love. No romance. No candlelit dinners waiting for me.
So what’s a girl to do?
I’m guessing many of you girls are in the same boat as me. You are sooo single and you’re wondering how to enjoy yourself when everything around you screams, “love, romance, and relationships.”
I feel ya girl. It can be hard. But…not impossible.
I’ve been single for twenty-six years and I’ve learned a few things. I’ve learned that I don’t have to dread the month of February. I don’t have to mope around, hating the fact that I’m still single. I don’t have to feel sad and depressed. I don’t have to walk through the store and despise every rose that I see.
I’ve learned that I can have those natural, God-given desires for love and romance, and still remain perfectly content with my current state of singleness.
Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and to be honest, I’m not dreading it at all. I honestly am not sad one bit. Yes, I’m looking forward to the day when I can celebrate it with my own true love, but that doesn’t ruin my Valentine’s Day this year.
I definitely don’t have all the answers, but I do have some. Here are a few of the ways that I’ve learned to totally enjoy February as a single girl.
1. God hasn’t changed.
Seriously think about what I’m saying. God created the entire universe from nothing. He brought the Israelites out of Egypt in a miraculous way. He parted the Red Sea. He shut the mouths of the lions and saved Daniel. He helped Joseph interpret dreams and made him second in command. Do you realize that that very same God is the one in control of your love life?
God is perfect in love and infinite in wisdom. He has a proven track record of taking care of His people. You have nothing to worry about. God is completely sovereign and will accomplish His purposes. You can rest knowing that if God wanted you to have a guy on Valentine’s Day, you would have one.
When I remember who God is, I stop worrying. I have soooo much comfort in the fact that God has me exactly where He wants me. I don’t need to feel sorry for myself because God is in control. He obviously wants me to be single right now and I need to serve Him as best I can. God hasn’t changed. His character is still the same. We can trust in Him.
2. Spend time with your favorites
Another way that I fend of the “Valentine’s Blues” is by spending time with people. I find people I love being around and then be with them. I don’t sit by myself mourning my singleness. I stay busy. I stay purposeful. I surround myself with people I love.
This year my family is hosting a huge Valentine’s Party for single aged people. We play games, have a dessert competition, talk and just enjoy each others company.
I would highly recommend planning an activity with people. Invite your girl friends over. Plan a game night with your family. Do something with people you love.
3. Plan a project that takes your eyes off of yourself.
There are so many great ways to spend your time investing in others. We got an e-mail earlier this week from a girl putting together a Valentine’s challenge called “1,400 Cards By Valentine’s Day.” She is asking people to write Valentine’s cards and mail them to an orphanage. What an awesome way to get your eyes off of yourself and invest into others.
If that idea doesn’t work, you could bake cookies for your elderly neighbors. Write encouraging letters to each family member. Cook a special meal for your family. It doesn’t matter what it is, just do something.
Just a few ideas…
Those are just a few of my ideas. Feel free to add to my list by commenting in the section below. I want this Valentine’s Day to be marked by joy and contentment and I want yours to be the same.
What ideas do you have for making this Valentine’s Day a joy and not a dread?
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