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Top 5 Books that have Impacted My View on Womanhood

Top 5 Books that have Impacted My View on Womanhood

I was minding my own business when this random guy suddenly walked up to me and decided to give me a lecture on the purposes of womanhood. I was seventeen years old and was just trying to have a fun time with my friends at a local pizza place. This random guy struck up a conversation by asking me if I did any modeling.

After I responded no, he then asked me “why in the world not?!” My response apparently didn’t satisfy him because he then launched into a 10 minute lecture on how much I was missing out on. 

“Someone like you shouldn’t pass up an opportunity like this!” He said. “If you want to make some real money in this world, then take my advice and get into the modeling industry before it’s too late. Don’t waste your life on something average when you could have loads of money, fame, and success.”  

Honestly, I had no idea how to respond to him.

I didn’t even know his name. I did what any normal trying-not-be-awkward person would do, and thanked him for the advice and told him I’d think about it. 

Although I never saw that guy again, his words rang in my ears for days to come. Be successful. Don’t waste your beauty. Take advantage of what life has handed you. Be powerful. Be strong. Become famous. 

As a teen girl, his words sounded pretty good to me. What girl wouldn’t want all of those things? 

But even as alluring and enticing as his advice was, deep down, I knew there was more to womanhood. I had been taught enough by my parents and other godly women to know that God’s design for womanhood was far more substantial than outward beauty, fame, and success. 

I had a burning desire in my heart to learn more about who God created me to be. 

That little flame led me on a journey that still continues today. Despite what pop-culture (or random guys) tell me, I’ve seen firsthand that God’s design for womanhood isn’t outdated or old fashioned, but beautiful, timeless, and inspiring. As I began to understand it correctly and embrace rightly, Biblical womanhood became an opportunity for me to showcase the life-changing picture of the gospel. 

Over the years, my personal perspectives on womanhood have been greatly shaped by books. That’s actually a huge reason why I like to write books myself. If you have a burning desire in your heart to understand more about God’s design for you, as a woman, I hope you’ll take advantage of the many incredible resources available today. 

Here are the top 5 books that have impacted my perspective on womanhood:

5. Lies Women Believe (Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth) 

In this powerful book, “Nancy exposes those areas of deception most commonly believed by Christian women—lies about God, sin, priorities, marriage and family, emotions, and more. She then sheds light on how we can be delivered from bondage and set free to walk in God’s grace, forgiveness, and abundant life.”

4. What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us (Danielle Crittenden) *Not recommended for younger girls. 

“Talk to women under forty today, and you will hear that in spite of the fact that they have achieved goals previous generations of women could only dream of, they nonetheless feel more confused and insecure than ever. What has gone wrong? What can be done to set it right? These are the questions Danielle Crittenden answers in What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us.”

3. The Feminist Mistake (Mary Kassian) 

“Feminism remains one of the most urgent issues the church is facing today, as shown by the increasing confusion over gender roles in marriages, families, and churches. With a growing number of theologians and denominations advocating radical gender egalitarianism, we must answer many questions about women in the church-and in the wider culture.”

2. Radical Womanhood (Carilyn McCulley) 

“Biblical womanhood is not for the weak. In an age that seeks to obliterate God and His authority, modeling biblical womanhood involves spiritual warfare. RadicalWomanhood seeks to equip new believers and long-time Christians alike, exposing the anti-God agenda of the three waves of feminism to date and presenting the pro-woman truth of the Scriptures.”

1. True Woman 101 (Nancy DeMoss & Mary Kassian)

“The Bible teaches that it’s not up to us to decide what womanhood is all about. God created male and female for a very specific purpose. His design isn’t arbitrary or unimportant. It is very intentional and He wants women to discover, embrace, and delight in the beauty of His design.”

Becoming a girl defined by God won’t happen by accident. 

If you want to know what God’s design is for your life as a female, I can’t encourage you enough to take intentional steps to learn and grow in this area. Grab one of these books and begin digging in today. I also want to mention another one of my favorite resources on this topic: Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity.

Bethany and I wrote Girl Defined as a result of the many truths we had learned about Biblical womanhood over the years. If you haven’t read our book yet, it’s a great place to start on your journey. 

In closing, I want you to know that God loves you and has an amazing plan for your womanhood.

Regardless of what anybody else tells you, you were created by God on purpose and for a good purpose. Don’t look to the world for your identity. Look to God’s Word. Look to your Maker. Look to the One who loves you more than anyone else. And when you do, you will discover how beautiful God’s plan for you truly is.  

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April 20, 2020 by Kristen Clark

Filed Under: Blog, Faith Tagged With: Books, Womanhood

How to Get Through a Really Hard Breakup

Bethany Beal

Breakups are no fun. They are hard and heartbreaking.

Here are a few things that I did during my dating days to help me process and work through my breakups.

Strategies to help you work through your break up

  1. Give yourself permission to cry and mourn.
  2. Soak in the Psalms.
  3. Forgive Him, Repent and accept forgiveness from God, and move forward in freedom.
  4. Soak in Scripture and Allow God’s Word to Restore Your Heart.
  5. Listen to worship music: Vertical Worship has a ton of great worship music.
  6. Meet with a godly friend or mentor.

Very Practical Things You Can Do: 

  • Take a break from social media. 
  • Avoid contacting him. 
  • Take a trip or make a new memory. 
  • Journal to help process your emotions and remind yourself of the truth. 
  • Volunteer at your church, local children’s shelter, or food bank. Do something to serve others.

April 15, 2020 by Bethany Beal

Filed Under: Blog, Relationships Tagged With: Breakups, Brokenness, Encouragement, Trials

10 Verses to Comfort Your Broken Heart

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A breakup is one of the most painful circumstances many of us experience.

It’s something I never wanted to go through and I’m sure you didn’t (or don’t want to go through) either. I don’t know anyone who enters a relationship in hopes that it will end with sadness and a broken heart. 

I know that I never wanted that.

The hope is that the relationship will work out beautifully and the two will live happily ever after. That is often not the case though. Sadly, the majority of us will experience a broken heart at some point in our dating/relationship days. 

If this is something you, or a friend, are going through, I want to offer you some hope and encouragement. I’ve listed out 10 of my personal favorite Scripture passages that I turned to when I went through my breakups.

These verses brought me such comfort, hope, and direction for how to deal with my broken heart. 

To help encourage you further, I want to offer you a FREE “Breakup Survival Guide” through our Patreon page. Anyone who joins our Patreon family will get a free breakup survival guide (as well as access to all previous Patron-only free products). The breakup survival guide will help you to navigate your heart and emotions in a Christ-centered and biblical way. 

10 Verses to Comfort Your Broken Heart 

He is Caring 

Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? Matthew 6:26-27 

He can be Trusted 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6 

He can change your Heart 

Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalm 61:10

He is your Shepard 

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters. He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake. Psalm 23:1-3 

He is your Refuge 

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1 

He offers Peace 

You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. Isaiah  26:3

His grace is Sufficient 

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 

He is close to the Brokenhearted 

The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:17-18

He is your Comforter 

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 

He cares for You

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7 

Continue the encouragement by sharing passages that have been an encouragement to you. Comment below and share the passage and then share how it specifically helped you! 

Join us over on Patreon to access your FREE survival guide! 

Photo by Kyle Broad on Unsplash

April 13, 2020 by Bethany Beal

Filed Under: Blog, Faith Tagged With: Bible Reading, Breakups, Brokenness, Encouragement

To the Girl Feeling Weary, Worthless, and Unwanted

We all wrestle with feelings of weariness, worthlessness, and feeling unwanted. Thankfully, that’s not where our story has to end. Over 2,000 years ago, Jesus came to this earth to bring hope to the hopeless, and rest to the weary. 

He sees you. He loves you. He knows you by name. 

As Easter weekend approaches, let’s take a moment to remember who Jesus is and why He came to this earth. If your soul is in need of some hope-filled, life-giving words, this video will breathe encouragement into your weary heart.

April 8, 2020 by Kristen Clark

Filed Under: Videos Tagged With: Depression, Emotions, Worry, Worth

The One Man Who Makes Every Woman Whole

They turned their heads away in disgust whenever she walked by. They were too repulsed to even look at her. She knew this too. Keeping her head down, she hurried past them. This situation was all too familiar for her. With tears streaming down her face, she walked faster. She just needed to get to the house.

After several minutes of making her way through the crowded and narrow streets, she finally saw it. The lights were bright on the inside. The smell of freshly baked bread lingered in the doorway. Pausing to wipe her face, she breathed deeply. She hesitated. 

Do I dare go inside uninvited…here of all places?

Fear gripped her heart. But this was her only chance. She had to do it. Pushing the heavy wooden door open, she peered inside. The room was full of people dining together and making conversation. Scanning the crowded room, she became nervous. 

Where is He? Where is He? 

With her heart beating faster, she finally spotted him sitting on the far side of the room. With her head down low, she hurried across the crowded room, avoiding eye contact with everyone. This wasn’t a welcoming place for women like her. And she knew it. But she was desperate. As she drew closer to the Man she came to see, unannounced tears burst from her eyes. She couldn’t help herself.

Too ashamed to look into his eyes, she fell down at his feet and sobbed.

Suddenly, the entire room quieted. All eyes were on this unexpected visitor. What is she doing here? How dare she come into this house. Doesn’t she know prostitutes aren’t welcome here?

Silence filled the room. But that didn’t stop her. 

With tears streaming down her face, she opened up a little flask of perfume. She poured the ointment on his dirty feet and used her own hair to wipe them. Nobody moved. Jesus looked down at her, His eyes filled with compassion and love. He was moved by her brokenness and genuine humility.

However, the onlookers were disgusted and wondered how He, of all people, could allow this. Speaking under his breath, one of the frustrated men said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would have known who and what sort of woman this is who is touching him, for she is a sinner” (Luke 7:39).

Knowing all things, Jesus looked up and locked eyes with the man who said this.

He said: “Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave me no water for my feet, but she has wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You gave me no kiss, but from the time I came in she has not ceased to kiss my feet. You did not anoint my head with oil, but she has anointed my feet with ointment. Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven—for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little” (Luke 7:44–47)

Jesus then looked down at the broken woman crying at His feet and lovingly said, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace” (Luke 7:50).

Jesus is our Savior. He is our Redeemer. 

He offers grace and forgiveness for the repentant sinner. He offers mercy for the broken person. He shows compassion for the despised. He loves the unlovable and touches the untouchable. He forgives and cleanses the shame of our past by giving us a redeemed future. He covers our sin with His own righteousness. 

No woman is too broken or too far gone that the love and forgiveness of Jesus is not greater still.

Jesus is the one Man that every woman needs. He is the one Man who can truly make us whole. 

He is the One our soul needs. He is the only One who can forgive our sins, wipe away our shame, and redeem our future. He is the only One who can permanently satisfy the ache in our hearts for true love. He is the only Man who can love us perfectly, without failure. He loves you so much.  

The Bible is full of beautiful stories of God transforming broken people into redeemed people for His glory.

Allow these hope-filled words of restoration that the prophet Isaiah penned for Israel to wash over your heart right now:

“The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is upon me, for the Lord has anointed me to bring good news to the poor. He has sent me to comfort the brokenhearted and to proclaim that captives will be released and prisoners will be freed.

He has sent me to tell those who mourn that the time of the Lord’s favor has come, and with it, the day of God’s anger against their enemies.

To all who mourn in Israel, he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks that the Lord has planted for his own glory” (Isa. 61:1–3 NLT, emphasis added).

The same powerful God who brought restoration to His children then is the same God who restores His children today.

He graciously and lovingly transforms our ashes into beauty for His glory.

When God looks at His redeemed daughters today, He doesn’t see condemned women covered in shame; He sees forgiven women covered in the righteousness of Christ (see 2 Cor. 5:21). God’s love for you is determined not by your actions but by His (see Rom. 5:8). You are worthy because of the worthy Savior who calls you His own (see Gal. 4:4–7). You are beautiful because of the beautiful Creator’s image that you bear (see Gen. 1:27).

Just as the prostitute woman loved Jesus above all else and came to Him to find healing and forgiveness, we can do the same today. Jesus said, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matt. 11:28). 

Come to Jesus. He will give you rest. He will make you whole in Him. 

As Easter weekend approaches, this is the perfect time to meditate on who Jesus is and why your relationship with Him is so important. As Christians, Easter Sunday (the resurrection of Jesus) is one of the most important events to celebrate in the entire year. Take some extra time this week to read and savor the beautiful passages of Scripture that talk about Jesus’s life, death, and resurrection. 

If you’re not sure where to start or how to do that, I highly recommend checking out some of these free resources:

Easter Week in Real Time (by: The Gospel Coalition) 

10 Day Easter Preparation Guide (by: Revive Our Hearts) 

Fill Your Heart with Fresh Awe This Easter (by: Revive Our Hearts) 

Jesus Christ is the one Man each of our hearts needs. He came to this earth to bring sight to the blind and to set the captives free. Look to Him for your Salvation. Look to Him for forgiveness. Look to Him for your identity. He is so worthy. 

In closing, take a few minutes to listen to this powerful song called Graves into Gardens and thank God for His amazing grace in your life. Thank you Jesus! 

*The majority of the content in this post was pulled from my book, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart (Chapter 15: Redeemed Sexuality). 

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April 6, 2020 by Kristen Clark

Filed Under: Blog, Faith, Identity Tagged With: God, Men of the Bible, Women of the Bible

Advice for Christian Teen Girls on Guys and Crushes

If you’re a Christian teen girl, this video was made especially for you! Navigating crushes, romantic attraction, and guy interests can be really complicated and confusing. And to make matters worse, we (as girls) often act in a way that confuses things even more.

So what are we supposed to do with these strong feelings? How are we supposed to deal with our crushes?

Thankfully, God’s word doesn’t leave us hanging. He has wisdom and counsel for us regarding the romantic areas of our lives. 

So let’s chat about guys, crushes, and how to navigate these romantic feelings in a God-honoring way.

April 1, 2020 by Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal

Filed Under: Videos Tagged With: Crushes, Guys, Teens

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